Why do I get the feeling that you have been caught in such a web by your struggles to be a good man yourself? It's a terribly ironic situation to be in, and if so, you have my sympathy.
But no, life is not merely about obligation...unless you are Japanese, of course, they seem to thrive on them. You have an obligation to yourself, as well. When caught up in such circumstances, the best thing to do is to take one of two ways. One, you decide right then and there, with the suddenness of a hawk's strike, choosing to live with the consequences. Two, you step back, and give yourself time to find your center and ponder the best course.
Either way requires a great deal of self-confidence and decisiveness. It is not easy. But it is doable.
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Date: 2011-09-13 10:20 pm (UTC)But no, life is not merely about obligation...unless you are Japanese, of course, they seem to thrive on them. You have an obligation to yourself, as well. When caught up in such circumstances, the best thing to do is to take one of two ways. One, you decide right then and there, with the suddenness of a hawk's strike, choosing to live with the consequences. Two, you step back, and give yourself time to find your center and ponder the best course.
Either way requires a great deal of self-confidence and decisiveness. It is not easy. But it is doable.